Openness in Marriage

In Genesis 2:25 the Bible in reference to Adam and Eve says,” And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed”. When that commitment to one another is created, the atmosphere between a couple can be nonjudgmental.

In marriage, a couple become one fresh. It is in a marriage relationship where the Bibles says that the man and his wife can be naked and not be ashamed. The two become united at a level that is much deeper. They may have their own short comings, but they accept each other to a point where they create an atmosphere that does not accommodate shame from being naked in each other’s presence. Anything that makes them productive stays within the bonds of their marriage and the two become one with a common goal.

This is what makes married couples unique in the way they treat each other when they are out and about. People can tell if one is committed to someone in a close relationship by looking out for signs. In public, when someone you consider very close introduces you by using your title, it is a sign they are not as close. When a partner introduces you to friends in public by your first name without a sense of shame, the partner may be honest and inline with the feelings he or she shares with you. In a close relationship like that, what the heart says has greater value and that is what partners or other people look for as a sign of true commitment in a relationship.

When Isaac and Rebekah lived in Gerar, the men of Gerar liked Rebekah because she was beautiful and attractive. When they asked Isaac about Rebekah he lied and said that she was his sister. In Genesis 26:8 the Bible in reference to Isaac and Rebekah says, “And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife” (KJV). Isaac said one thing, but his heart said another. A marriage relationship values what the heart communicates. Abimelech, king of the Philistines knew how to interpret what the heart was saying and to him their being able to cross those invisible boundaries was a sure sign Isaac was closer to Rebekah as a wife not as a sister.

We have to realize that it is not really about a couple being naked and not being ashamed. It is about being open to each other and not being judgmental. Marriage needs a level of openness that creates an atmosphere of acceptance for a couple to do well.

How open are you in your marriage?